26 things you’ll understand if you’re still obsessed with Harry Potter

I just want to preface this by saying that a few weeks ago I listened to the philosopher’s stone soundtrack whilst on a flight – staring out of the window, trying not to sob. It was perhaps the best thing to happen ever. 10/10 would recommend to a friend.

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Harry Potter is without any shadow of doubt, one of my favourite things to have ever existed. It fills me with so much happiness that it’s actually weird. Luckily I’m not the only one – so I compiled a list of things that my fellow Potterheads will understand (luv u guys let’s play Quidditch sometime soon yh?)

  1. You still worry about the chance that you’re a squib,

    I just couldn’t live with myself…not that squibs are any less important #equalityforall

  2. Or that you’re letter never made it to you,

    Living everyday holding onto the knowledge that Voldemort’s ministry deleted all muggleborn records between 1985-1998. That must be the only reason, right?!

  3. Years later, the deaths of certain characters continue to ruin your day,

    A lot of great people died okay, I don’t even want to think about it. 

  4. You’re baffled when people don’t know what house they’re in,

    Do us all a favour (and let me know your results.) I’m a Hufflepuff, sure you’re dying to know.

  5. You re-read the books once a year

    & it is a perfectly acceptable use of your time!! 

  6. You will always have a deep rooted hatred for Peter Pettigrew.

    He was their friend. And he betrayed them. HE WAS THEIR FRIEND. 

  7. If the chance came, you would drop everything and be a mature student at Hogwarts.
  8. You’ve accepted the fact that you’d spend extortionate amounts on a toilet brush if it had the Hogwarts shield emblazoned on it.
  9. Nothing brings you more joy (or jealousy) than seeing someone experience Harry Potter for the first time.
  10. No franchise will ever compare!

    Yeah Lord of the Rings is great and everything but where’s Sirius?

  11. It still hurts to think that the series ended (but you accept that it was time to let go)

    Cursed Child and Fantastic Beasts just isn’t the same really, let’s be honest.

  12. And when somebody says that they preferred fantastic beasts:

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  13. You may have spent a year week or two doing absolutely nothing but playing Pottermore in bed.

    Why is it so addictive JK, why?

  14. Whilst people around you scoff at a friend that owns a wand you’re screaming “WHO’S WAND? WHAT’S THE CORE MATERIAL?”
  15. You spend hours watching “12 things you never noticed about Harry Potter” videos, only to be disappointed that you learnt nothing new.

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  16. You shamelessly listen to the soundtrack and have maybe forced friends to play it at the pub. GuiltyEmoji

  17. You’re still waiting for the day that somebody buys you a Hogwarts uniform,

    You even make incredibly subtle hints about it in blog posts.

  18. You constantly find yourself thinking about spells that would make your life 100x easier,

    Particularly accio.

  19. Now that you’re a real life adult you can’t help but have conversations about how complex Harry Potter is.

    The underlying messages about racism, class hierarchy and government corruption make it a true gift to literature.

  20. You still feel an overwhelming sense of joy reading the words “Mr. and Mrs. Dursley, of number four, Privet Drive, were proud to say that they were perfectly normal, thank you very much.”
  21. All of your future pets (and children) have already got Potter themed names.
  22. You’re still kept awake at night by some of the best things that were left out of the films…

    Where was Peeves? Where was Harry giving the twins his tournament winnings? Where was S.P.E.W? Why was there no mention of Ron winning the Quidditch cup? Where was Voldy’s back story? WHERE WAS THE UNVEILING THAT RITA SKEETER WAS AN ILLEGAL ANIMAGUS?! I’m calm, I’m calm. Get prepared for this to be a separate post of anger.

  23. Some of the character portrayals in the films deeply, deeply upset you.What happened to Ginny Weasley?

  24. “Aren’t you a little old to still be into Harry Potter?” 

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  25. Harry Potter has been the bonding moment between you and some of your best friends,

    Will taking Harry Potter quizzes and discussing which character you relate most with whilst ignoring all of the muggles at a party ever get old?

  26. You know that even when you’re 52, you’ll pick up a Harry Potter book or walk through a place that looks vaguely like Diagon Alley and be filled with warmth and fuzziness, thinking about all of the happiness that JK bought you (thanks gal.)4aa391051958b3ef60ba7780e0466a8aTwo_Pink_Hearts_Emoji

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Confessions of a Bad Feminist

One of the best things I’ve ever read has to be a collection of essays by Roxane Gay, she is an absolute goddess and the mastermind behind “Bad Feminist.” It completely reaffirmed my beliefs and taught me a lot about how I conduct myself (particularly around other women.) There is nobody on this planet that I would not recommend this book to.

As a feminist, I often find myself thinking “that wasn’t very ‘feminist’ of you” as if that even means anything. I think it’s easy to get caught up in unwritten rules within a social movement and feel as if you’re doing something wrong. When realistically, as long as you’re supporting equality between every gender, you are a feminist.

It was however, amusing to collate the things that I thought made me a “bad feminist” so I thought it was only right to share them with you here.

 

Defending why I don’t want children 

I often find myself in conversation with people in which I state that having children really isn’t something that I’m interested in ever doing. The odd thing here being that in my head I know that this is completely okay and I have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. BUT then I seem to go on to say the words “I mean I probably will in the future, I guess I can never completely rule something out.”

Now for all I know I could wake up one cloudy Tuesday in 2024 and decide that all I want in the world is 2 kids and a holiday home in France so this isn’t a completely ridiculous statement to make.

The problem is that I only say these things to try and defend myself in front of certain people. There’s something in my crap feminist head that can’t bare that look of “oh…so you just don’t…want…kids?” So what I’m trying to confess is that I pretend I might one day want them so that my womb can feel better about itself. Sad, I know.

 

Defending my body hair (apparently I’m a very defensive person)

I’m an inherently lazy person. If I don’t absolutely have to do something, I simply won’t. So when it comes to body hair, all I’m saying is that I’m not going to spend an extra 20 minutes in the shower fixing something that is not broken.

And once again – as with the children – I AM OK WITH THIS. BUT. I find myself getting awkward when people mention it, I make an active effort to cover my legs in certain social situations and I have no idea why. It’s so frustrating to me that I clearly still care about these stupid social constructs.

To quickly clear this up, I’m not saying that all feminists have body hair or trying to encourage stupid stereotypes that should have never existed in the first place. I’m simply saying that if I’m comfortable with something within myself – why the heck am I still hiding it away?

 

Feeling accomplished when hearing the phrase “you’re not like other girls” 

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We should be praising and empowering each other, not putting one another down and accepting sub par compliments that single us out from everybody else. It really upsets me to admit that I used to be filled with joy at the sound of these words, as if I’d done something spectacular when realistically this is another way of saying “being a woman is a bad thing” congratulations, you’ve succeeded in beating the rest of them.

Don’t even get me started on the term “you *insert any verb* like a girl.”

 

Being in awe of an authoritative woman/thinking that a female is “too bossy” 

The fact that I look up to authoritative women will never be a bad thing, the thing that upsets me about this is that is constantly seems to come with a side dish of “wow, she actually got to this position of power – good for her.” As if having anything other than a male boss is an achievement. Another thing that is worth noting is that is the old “bossy” comment.

Now, I could be wrong, but I just need you to take a minute and try and think of any situation in which you’ve thought a man was being bossy in your workplace. Please tell me if you’ve found something. Because in my experience, a man telling their colleagues what to do is them doing their job. A woman on the other hand, is being bossy. If this isn’t a clear example of inequality at work, I don’t know what is.

 

Judging another persons’ sex life 

Ok, we’ve all done it. Unfortunately it seems to be part of human nature to judge other people. BUT we need to make sure that we’re judging people EQUALLY.

I’m kidding, this is my public statement saying that I will never judge another person on their sexual activity. As long as their not hurting anyone, of COURSE – and even then, what problem did judging somebody else ever solve?

 

Openly not doing “feminine” things 

This one is just silly. When I was younger I remember actively not doing things because they were deemed girly. Whatever gender you identify as, you should be able to wear giant pink fluffy everything or make up or a t-shirt that literally says “I’m a big masculine manly man” because clothes don’t mean anything. Objects do not contribute anything to your gender or who you are as a person 

 

Saying the words “I only hang out with guys”

Firstly, why I ever wanted to only associate with guys baffles me – not that I’m throwing shade at the “male race” but purely because it just seems so closed off and weird. That statement in itself confuses me but sadly, it used to be something that frequently left my mouth.

It really gets me down that there was a time in my life where I would instantly assume I wouldn’t get on with a “girly girl.” Because it’s one of the silliest things I’ve ever heard.

Roxane Gay actually says something that perfectly epitomises what I’m trying to say in Bad Feminist:

If you’re the kind of woman that says “I’m mostly friends with guys and act like you’re proud of that, like that makes you closer to being a man or something and less of a woman, as if being a woman is a bad thing…it’s okay if most of your friends are guys but if you champion this as a commentary on the nature of female friendships, well, soul-search a little.” 

I’d definitely recommend reading the article that this quote comes from, It’s fantastic. We need to stop the toxicity and competition in our friendships and accept that we’re all fabulous.

ALSO, while I’m ranting – on a slightly unrelated topic – there is a meme that circulated a year or two ago about girls that are only friends with guys. You may have seen it, the woman with hot dogs in her mouth? Maybe I’m just being a negative nelly and not taking a joke but did it annoy anyone else that this makes the assumption that a woman can’t be friends with a group of men without engaging in sexual activity with all of them? As if – oh I don’t know – women were sex objects. I could have completely misread it, but I figured there’s no better time for me to have this rant.

 

Feeling uncomfortable about doing things that are typically aren’t “feminine” 

The best example of this that I can think of is when I was younger and I felt really uncomfortable eating large amounts of food in front of other people. Or being messy or gross in any way. As if it was a strange thing to do because I’m a petite, polite lady. Luckily I got over that and frequently shovel mass amounts of food into my mouth for all to see – throwing it everywhere and causing a huge mess of course. (You’re welcome.)

But this is completely the same for hobbies, media, sex – the list goes on and on (and it shouldn’t exist.)

 

Not knowing what to do around a crying man 

…as if it were any different to comforting anybody else. This is something that I think needs a lot more attention in our society. Men have been emotionally repressed for far too long and the idea that’s emasculating to cry is ridiculous. Similarly, the idea that it’s hysterical for anybody to cry is. We are all human, everybody needs a good cry sometimes.

Gender equality still has to come a long way and although it’s undeniable that things are better than they were – I think we all need to continue to work towards building a society in which everybody is equal, regardless of their gender, race or any other construct that seems to segregate us even though we are all human.

 

 

8 of my Favourite Coming-of-Age Novels

I’m not sure what it is about teenage angst and romance that cheers me up on a dreary day but boy does it! I guess the main appeal is that they are so relatable and more often than none, have a happy ending. Anyway, I realised that a handful of my favourite novels are coming of age books and thought I’d eternalise my feelings about them here – in no particular order.

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Of course The Perks of Being a Wallflower was going to be included in this post. I know everyone says this about the books they enjoy but I literally didn’t put this book down until I had read every last word – and then continued to sit in awe of what I had read, experiencing that horrid feeling of finishing a book which I can only liken to losing a friend. I was happy and full of optimism yet gutted that I’d never find out the next instalment. It’s an emotional rollercoaster and I feel as though sometimes it helps to board someone else’s and be assured that everyone has crap days but in the end you just have to keep plodding along.

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About a Boy is the feel good story that everyone needs to read; two characters that are complete opposites coming together to improve each other’s lives without the foggiest idea that they’ve even changed their morning routine – until of course the end in which everyone lives happily ever after. Classic. This book seems to make the hormonal days of adolescence seem dramatic – not that they are of course, it is most definitely a time in which everything sucks and your parents are actively trying to ruin your life Whenever I read About a Boy I get an overwhelming sense of positivity and am reassured that everything will be a-okay!

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Matilda is everything; a ton of books, cottages with gorgeous flowery gardens and gigantic chocolate cakes. Seriously, what more could anyone want? This book is particularly personal to me as I re-read it and watched the film around 4 times a week for about 6 years. (But I think I speak for many of the people in my generation when saying that.) Roald Dahl is a genius and so much of his work is brilliant – Matilda is just a personal favourite of mine.

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I feel as if this is a bit of a cop-out but Harry Potter is excellent and that will never change! Opening a HP book takes me right back to being 11 years old and waiting excitedly for the next instalment, running straight back to my house to read it and refusing to do anything else – except texting my friends about how much I was crying about the death of Dobby and Fred of course. (and everyone else that very unfortunately lost their lives in the war against Voldemort. R.I.P)

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I think I speak for every girl my age when I say that Georgia Nicolson just understood me and the difficulties of being 14. I’m so tempted to buy these books and laugh about the stories I used to love so much; feeling so mature reading about boys and god forbid – thongs. This whole series was just perfect and yes I did get very excited that the film was filmed in Eastbourne/Brighton.

Update: I have purchased the book and am full of excitement.

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One Day is just lovely. I’m invested in the characters, I’m on the edge of my seat throughout, I am desperate for them to find happiness. It epitomises the struggles of a twenty something person trying to find their calling and fulfilment in the first decade of their adult life. It brings comfort that not everyone falls into a job straight outta Compton Uni and mystically lives happily ever after whilst reinforcing ideas of true friendship and cherishing the wonderful people in your life. I could read it a thousand times more with pleasure.

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When reading Holes I am transported to a tiny grey classroom – in the midst of puberty surrounded by my closest friends – discovering that English is something I’d love to study. Covered in eyeliner and worshipping My Chemical Romance but happier than ever. Mostly for this reason it has made the list but it is a truly fantastic novel.

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I know that this book is on every single one of these lists but there’s a good reason for that. I read Catcher in the Rye for the first time during my first year of University – the perfect time to read a book that’s filled with so much confusion regarding the future. I finished it in around four train journeys and felt close to Holden and much more carefree about adulthood and fulfilling the expectations of others. Catcher in the Rye may be mentioned a bit too much and is a popular favourite but it’s for the sole reason that it’s a bloody brilliant book.

So these are a handful of my favourite books, as well as being excellent tales I think they have bought me comfort at certain less than peachy times throughout the past 21 years. There are so many other books that follow similar themes that I’m looking forward to reading, holla at me with some suggestions and I’ll make sure I check them out.